Arab Men, how about a reality spank on your signature baldheads!
13.02.12 / Guilty of Shame / 11 Comments
Just if you’re wondering, YES, I did take a quite damn long break from stripping off my thoughts in public … its winter after all. In any case, you’ve landed on my page so let’s start with hello, its me and I’m totally back.
Lately I’ve been thinking about Arab men and women. Between the two I’m struggling to decide who the victim is and who is not! You and I know how Arab women are under what I believe is a severe psychological and physical pressure to perfect their beings for let’s be honest men. We all come across women from different sizes who’ll starve themselves for months and run miles in whatever marathon to not fit in their favorite pair of jeans or do well in their societies but to simply keep their men visually aroused. Is it a surprise? Let’s not pretend …
The idea of perfection isn’t bad, but the fact that women are perfecting themselves to lock down men requires a shrink. Let’s imagine that you and I are having a quality walk in one of the shopping malls or any busy place. Look around carefully … observe… do you see what I see? Dozens of average unfit men with highly self-maintained ladies. You know the swollen lips, bleached hair and refined French nose. Are men the main source of depression, pressure and early menopause? They’re definitely one of the main and classic reasons of different types of pains we, women go through. Just to confirm my little nose is God made!!
Arab men are in a very urgent need for a reality hit, electric shock or spank on their signature baldheads. Good % of self-admirer men believe that they have the ultimate right – granted from birth – of course to choose and marry Ms. Perfection who they carefully pick out from their mums’ dusted catalogues. Okay, pause for a while and open the (I’m hunting a wife) page in whatever magazine, EXACTLY they want her strawberry and moon-like, and not to forget financially secured. Give me a break Mr. Heartbreaker? You and I know, you’re nothing like Banderas … Are men asking for too much here?
I don’t mind Arab men holding tight to their pretty dolls, or looking for financially secured partners but don’t you think they have to work hard on their physical and spiritual assets to demand perfection and please their women? A very good portion lack the physical assets (no, a good look isn’t subjective). The type of assets you stare at while having your coffee at Valencia St. in Barcelona… Yes you got my point now! Even financially, a man shouldn’t stare at his woman’s pocket, for G’s sake who is the main provider nowadays?
My only issue is that Arab men won’t stop praying for women like the programmed ones from the Stepford Wives who have absolutely no cellulite on their thighs or bums. If you have a saggy belly, why picking on heavy women? I’m not suggesting women to quit going to the gym, but I want fellow men to start realizing that they’re guilty of years of psychological abuse. Women aren’t victims as well, they should start respecting their individuality and skin whether thick or not. Its about time for them to let go the I’m a property mentality!
Who’s the victim really? Generations of women and men to come.
Applies across all nationalities, methinks!
Glad that you aren’t hiding your Stepford Wives mentality!
“Good % of self-admirer men”.. That’s said, it’s just a percentage. I have to agree with what’s in this article though. Nicely done. Thank you.
a “Good % of men” are as well running after perfection; Gym, Arnold Look alike, Fast and Furious character, hair planting, ever young and strong look, etc…
it is more about social failures to accept individuals in their raw picture, rather then sexual discrimination, victimize women or men for global pictures publicized abroad…
Its a strike, I have to say.
But I belive that one of the main reasons for the Mr.Arabman thinking that a woman is a property is the woman her self, along with our society.
I belive that once a lady go backs to her sanity , puts her self at the top of her priority list, not only men would appreciate her , but even the society.
What am trying to say is that women should not revolve their lives around men, a woman/Lady/girl should concentrate on her self at first , to please god, then her self.
God created us for a reason, to unite , to build, to stand next each other.
Our society as a whole needs a wake up call.
Hmm.. thats a touchy topic. One thing is I am glad I aint bald.. I got lots of hair on my head!
Secondly, I think the ladies actually like it, so do the men. When I walk in malls, I see the women do a stare off at eachother comparing the bottle blonde or how correct their lips are. I think the women like it, the men definitly do to.
There are a lot of men who work hard, my wife and I together work hard at looking good together, we shine off eachother… totally love it.
Nowadays when women get to choose who they want to look like, the lips they choose, the angle of the nose they want.. i think they love it and want it. If anything I think they love the attention they get.
Just my thought.
Love the article though.. keep them comming!!
Your current approach with your wife tells me one thing “balance” and that’s what most of cases lack. Good luck!
First of all good post
secondly, you totally forgot about the crazy people like Karl Lagerfeld and all other designers who want women to start starving themselves and sticking their fingers in their mouths to throw up what they just ate so that they could look good in a “dress” or gown.
i do agree there are some women who get out of the way and put an extra effort for their men which is good but wrong in the same time. Everyone should accept others as what they from the inside. Yes looks do matter but not as important to as how things should be from the inside.
out of my experience with friends all of them don’t want fit stick ladies that fit into size 2 or whatever dresses. They just want curvy girls with a bit of extra weight its the “arab” beauty sign. Lots also just go for natural beauty. Its totally up to the person if she wants to go under the knife or take those injections that turn her lips into Nissan desert tires.
Thanks
Yousif Al Thawadi
Looking good is any girl’s priority nowadays; whether it is for university, mall, or simply going to the supermarket. I must admit that I am one of those girls; but the difference is I actually do it for my self not to please or gratify anyone, simply myself; maybe it is an obsession or some sort of OCD but that is just the way I am. The aerobics and frequent gym-ing has become a trend in both men and women, what I have noticed that most, like I said “most”, men have been looking so bulky and muscly recently; and we all know it is not due to there long hard weight lifting. Women are also not on the peak of this either, most of them just go to they gym to simply state, “I went”. I am not saying that this is the case with all people; some actually go to improve their health and shape up. What I am trying to say with all this is that if a person wants to look good they should for themselves first and then they could think of looking good for others, and no I don’t mean strangers here, but more of a spouse. I have believed I have written much when this was supposed to be a simple comment.
I really don’t know what goes on in the women world, but it kinda sounds like extreme cases, I mean the botox and things like that.
I’ve developed this mentality that I should take care of myself just as much as my future wife would take care of herself for me. I would really enjoy making my wife happy in any reasonable way.
Anyway, a girl who tries to look her best defiantly send the correct signals for me. I remember not so long ago that I’ve always wanted to marry a European woman just because they take good care of themselves, I didn’t notice that local girls actually improved in that department which I think should always be encouraged but within reasonable limits.
To be honest I’ve noticed that most local women fall in love with men who are not worth a dim. This goes to all girls, marry good men and you won’t be nagging about how unappreciative they are and how disrespectful they treat you, in the end its your fault for accepting/loving such guys.
I guess the reason why beautiful young women are seen with grumpy, ugly and sometimes older guys is that these men are rich. First, women marry guys for there money and then they complain they don’t love them.
Wealth and beauty is a popular combination. When you marry a guy just for his money then how can you possibly expect him to love you. He married you just for your looks. And you are not the only women with good looks in this world. Just another pretty face to him.
It’s all women’s fault that they drool over rich guys. This makes them think they can get any woman they want. So, when you have something at your disposal, you don’t care about it or give it the respect it deserves.
May be it’s time that women started marrying guys they connected with and the guys they found to be their soul mates.
I’m not saying they shouldn’t marry rich men. Love should be the per-requisite for marriage and it should take precedence over wealth.